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I truly believe that humans are a summation of their lived and saved experiences. We are as open as our own experiences have pushed us to be. That is why it is important to remember that before calling someone with a narrow mind. It is important for us to identify your socioeconomic conditions. Or anything that may affect your prospects for life. For example, your father is the head of the family, the stick and the breadwinner, it could be a problem for you to talk to members of the opposite sex. You are likely to judge other women around you for being friendly to men, not realizing that your bias is based on your upbringing.
Because it is ingrained in our lifestyle, some of these behavior patterns are difficult to recognize. We forget that we are even judging people and that sometimes the things we say and do can affect the well-being of others. It is difficult to make changes to our DNA overnight, so do it one day at a time. Simply being aware is the biggest step of all, from there you are on your way. However, if you know me, then you know that I am about to share some helpful tips to help you on this journey.
Here are 9 ways you can help change your outlook in life:
1) Assess your prospects
Think and consider the thoughts, perspectives, and biases you may have on important issues. Perhaps list them for clarity. Discover how they shape you and your friends, does it make you seem negative to others? This step is only easy if you are honest with yourself.
2) Understand the source of these perspectives
All learned behavior comes from somewhere, it could be your family, experiences, education, culture, reading habits. Once you understand the source, try to find out if it helps you be the best broader version of yourself. If not, this exercise will help you make the desired changes.
3) Learn about someone else’s life experiences.
Like you, everyone else’s perspectives are developed from your own experiences. It would be wrong to assume that your truth is the only truth. Everyone knows someone with whom you essentially disagree, so reach out to that person and have a healthy, casual conversation about their perspectives. This will surely help you better understand someone else’s goals. Be sure to also ask if your perspectives have changed over time and what has influenced that change.
4) Avoid debating and jumping to conclusions
While it can be normal to get angry at people who don’t share the same opinion as you, it can also be information about which you learn something new. Try not to jump to conclusions immediately, get defensive, and then argue and debate the conversation. Recognize that both parties are different and thoughts are different, process in your own time, so try to listen and respond respectfully unless the conversation veers off toward being wildly inappropriate.
5) Make people old and wiser
Talking to an older person is not as tedious as you might imagine. You learn a lot about the history, its struggles, its perseverance, its values. You don’t have to try to bring all of their learnings into your life. Just remove the things that you know will help you grow.
6) Learn about something you have no idea about
Recognize that you cannot grow or develop without knowledge. You can sign up for classes, seminars, webinars, conferences, etc. Arm yourself with tools that go beyond human interaction and conversation. Enjoy politics even if you don’t like it because it affects your life.
7) Read everything you can
Not just the books you like, read at least 1 book every few months. Read articles online, check news portals and media sources you trust for information. For example, even if you are liberal, be sure to read and get conservative perspectives, as this will give you access to the perspectives of both parties.
8) travel far and wide
If you really want to expand your horizons effectively, travel as much as you can. Not only do you see the sights, but you also experience the culture, the new cuisines, the nuances of different people, the language, and the patterns of behavior. It is an instant gateway to all things wonderful and healthy.
9) Manage your expectations and start incorporating these new learned perspectives
Don’t expect that because you’re willing to evolve your perspective, everyone else might be open to the idea as well. Make sure to manage your expectations during the transition. Don’t try to integrate everything you’ve learned at once, observe first and then go ahead and start a conversation or share your ideas. For the most part, just enjoy what it feels like to have an open mind.
What are some of the things that help you change your perspective in life? Let me know in the comments below.
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